You know this. It is easy to quit something you don’t see progression. Sometimes you go with your gut feeling and sometimes you go what people say about it.
Is there a definite way for optimal tries after which you should quit?
The answer isn’t yes or no. Being said that, you can learn about experiences and then find your strengths and weakness and go with that.
On a side note, quitting isn’t sexy. Nobody likes it and it is frowned upon. It is a tough decision to make. And the consequences awaits you – people judging you for your failure and you self doubting your capabilities.
If we could choose then we would have gone with the wins in all tries and that is ideal. And life isn’t ideal. You will experience failure, set backs and sometimes you will end up being confused.
The key isn’t to find a solution. The key is to keep giving your best shot until you realize that something isn’t for you or you don’t know the tricks and shortcuts for it. By tricks I mean, the perfect path in which you can do the hard work.
It doesn’t mean a real short cut. If anything it means the working towards your goals with a path which has been tested many times.
This is the most common trait. We see no progress and jump to quitting. And I experienced it myself. While I was learning to swim, I couldn’t see any improvement for a long time. I was about to quit and then decided to give it one more shot.
And boom, I saw improvement. One day I couldn’t do the technique, the next day I could.
I realized, the progression was happening at the back of my mind. My brain was learning the coordination and once it mastered it, I was amazed.
What to do when you fall in such situation?
Ask friends who took the same course and find out how long they practiced for? The key is to get an idea and then double or triple it based on how you rate yourself against that friend.
If it is a skill, you can learn it. It may take longer time but you can nail it. For example, if your friend mastered the piano in 30 days and you judge yourself as someone who has half grasping power then double the days.
Even better, triple it. Give yourself 90 days to give best shot everyday. And after a quarter of year, you don’t see yourself moving ahead then it might be time for quit. Else you would have seen yourself becoming better. Now you know how much time to give yourself.
If quitting your job on which you rely for the food then it is wise to have some fall back. Have savings at least for 3 months before you think about quitting because it will act as a buffer. While you are searching for the new job, it will give you security and less stress.
You needn’t change your lifestyle. In addition to the savings, you need to level up your skills. If you go jobless then you need a strong resume to land an offer.
While you are working on your current job, take advantage of any learning skills which comes under your radar. Sometimes do it personally or go a get it funded by your company.
The moment your knowledge gets outdated – you will find yourself in tough spot. Keep learning and opportunities will follow you.
Treat each day to learn something new, get your skill tested and perfected while you can without any stress or time constraints.
There isn’t any shortcut to success. Having said that, there are tools and paths which we can take to maximize our chances of success. For example, if you want to learn swimming then you can learn it by yourself, hire a coach or enroll in a course.
By doing that, you might give yourself a leverage. Sometimes we need an additional push and we need mentors to bring out the best from us,
If you have made up your mind to quit then ask yourself – have you tried hiring a coach to guide you or enrolled in an online or offline course?
If you did and still nothing happens then go ahead and quit. But for most of you guys, this will do wonders.
Remember if any course or coach promises you to victory with minimal effort then chances are she is lying to you. There are no magic bullets which will turn you into a performing star. You need to do the hard work. You need to sweat it out.
It will take time. And it will be worth it in the end. Even if you don’t succeed, lessons learnt will stick with you for lifetime.
Quitting isn’t something you plan when you take new ventures. However it is best to have a framework to test your work to see if it is wise to quit or not.