When two people fall in love with each other, they experience a bond which seems greater than anything they had before in life. And when they stay with each other for long time, it starts to fade away.
We get bored. Life needs some spices to keep it interesting. You can’t have the same energy and momentum after 5 years in love. To do that you need to keep trying ways – giving surprises, caring and spending quality time together.
Above all of this comes understanding each other and accepting the flaws. No one is perfect – mutually both of you should accept their flaws. No judgement’s on them later in life. Because you knew before hand of the problems which your love partner has in her bag.
Is there a way to approach the love in a winning way?
Can anyone keep the love strong after many years of being in a relationship?
What is required for a lifetime successful love relationship?
These questions keep troubling us because the answer isn’t straightforward. There is no magic formula to it. You are the magician – you can do magic in your life.
Everyone of us might need different ways to keep the relationship a success. What we do have in common is the idea of love between 2 people.
What we do have is the inner desire to sustain it. Love is a beautiful thing. It changes us for good most of the times. And sometimes we impact others positively.
It doesn’t matter how much you love someone – they might walk out of your life someday. Or you would do the same. There is no guarantee in a relationship.
That’s the beauty of it. You can’t expect to impress once and hope to stay lifetime. You need to be worth everyday to have your partner’s company. And they need to do the same for your affection.
The most common reason for the bond to break is attraction. When you get attracted to the person’s beauty and not their personality. As soon as you get to know more about them, you start to dislike them and then walk away.
At the beginning of your love stage, you shouldn’t commit. Take time to understand the person, their nature and then take any decision.
It is better to expect the least in a relationship. That way you are more inclined to put worth in their efforts. Otherwise we don’t realize how much the person meant to us until they walk away. You should let the person know that you care.
When two people are in love, they try to impress each other. Every time you meet each other, you are showcasing the best version of yourself and sometimes hiding things which you think would end the relationship.
What should you do?
Tell the truth. The relationship built on lies won’t last for long anyway and the longer it takes to know the truth, the more hurt you will be.
Don’t just list down all your flaws in one go. But do tell them slowly one by one until you have told them all. And politely ask the same. This way you might be more comfortable and decide whether you want to continuing the relationship.
It is better to walk away from a non-compatible relationship than trying to seem compatible when in reality both of you aren’t.
Spending a day with each other is a nice day. You know what’s an even better idea – spending a week or 2 weeks together. The ideal place is the one where comforts aren’t a priority. For example, camping in an area where you need to cook your own meals, wash your clothes and travel on foot.
The idea is to put yourself and your partner in a position which might open them up – their worst part. And then when you spend a long time together in a discomforting environment, you will end up knowing each other better.
Things like how much you swear, what happens you eat semi-cooked food, how you react when you are tired and many other examples.
When you can keep your calm and still love each other in such situations, chances are positive for your relationship to go for a longer duration.
Most of the people fall in love in their teens and that is not the correct time. It is the phase when hormones are hitting strong and most of us are immature.
Patience, understanding, caring are the least thing we check out for qualities in our love partner. We opt for beauty, money and other qualities which are materialistic.
Slowly as we grow up we realize it was all an attraction and not love in its purest form.
We lost the game in our first try which is okay. First love often doesn’t translates into a long-term relationship because it isn’t love in the first place. It is probably a compromise, attraction or peer pressure to have a love relationship.
Talk, go out and have fun and take time to learn more about your passion. At this phase, you need to take care of your interests and grow up. Love will eventually come in place. Sooner or later. It isn’t a sprint where you need to start first to win.
You need to grow yourself, improve your people skills and when time comes people will find you attractive and mature enough to date you.
That way you have higher chances of lasting the love. Make yourself worth enough and your love will find you. Or when you approach, you will have a higher success rate.
It is hard to say which relationship has the purest love. It depends on each person’s case. In a nutshell, if you love someone without having any expectation in return then it is the purest love form.
For example, parents and their children. Parents don’t want anything at least till their kids are young. They support you and that’s it. They don’t expect you to help them. Instead they wish you all the best and are always present when you need them.
And here comes the paradox, although the purest love sounds good. Expecting nothing in return is the ideal thing however we are humans and we need reciprocation of some kind.
The best feeling in the world is when someone you love, loves you back more than you do them. The goosebumps speaks in such situations. A magical wave is felt in your body.
Once you propose to your love, the story doesn’t end. You need to care more, spend more time and keep showing your love.
It isn’t a game which ends once you have your partner by your side. It is a marathon which is lifelong and you need to be constant in your efforts. The moment you take things for granted, you lose.
Likes and Dislikes
The ideal relationship is one where the likes and dislikes match 100 percent. The more match you have in your likes and dislikes, the more chances of your love being long-lasting.
Yes, character and other traits matter. Your personal preferences matters too, if say you want someone who doesn’t smoke or something similar.
To make love between you and your lover, focus on this method. Once you fell in love, look for the likes and dislikes. The more matches, the better. It will help you come to a better conclusion. Exceptions do exists but as their name – they are an exception.
Have an open mind and expect things to be temporary. This way you will not hurt yourself a lot in the process of finding love for yourself.