The Illusion Of Not Possible Because Of Friend Circle
Friends are an integral part of your life. Unlike family, you aren’t born with one. You have to choose them, and over the years, you exclude some – find some new and stick with few for a lifetime.
You share the secrets, laugh and cry together. And create memories which last for a lifetime. They also take care of you – like an extended family.
When you go through a rough phase of a breakup, job loss or death of a loved one – your friend comes in and helps you overcome the pain.
And best friends do the wackiest thing like mock you, ask for a party and have fun. But still, this helps you and lightens the mood. Without friends, life would become soulless, and you won’t find the courage to live with high enthusiasm. The human connection goes a long way – there are many barriers to the relationship. But with friends, all of those drop. And all you are left with a pure connection where you can share your heart out. And be comfortable with the uncomfortable topics.
Hence, other relationships become fantastic if you can mix them with friendship. For example, approaching parenting with a sprinkle of friendship.
Your friends can become a source of inspiration to you. If your friend is doing higher studies at an international college, then you can become motivated too. And since your friends did it, the possibility seems real.
Hence, they can become a peer group which pushes you to do more. But at the same time, things don’t always get aligned.
Maybe what you want to achieve in life isn’t with the lines what your friends want. For example, you might want to become a dancer and your friend circle is filled with people doing management position. There is no success story in your area or at least in a similar category.
This can make you feel like you are doing something wrong. When all of your friends are doing something, it makes sense to do something similar.
Because it is safe. And so the bar has been set. And it is difficult to continue doing what you do and consider yourself better. Also, it can become hard to uplift and make some progress.
Change The Group
If you are feeling limited or you aren’t making progress because your friend circle isn’t inspiring you then make new friends. Yes, your old friends are essential and so keep them. But don’t make them the circle for doing the work.
Hang out with them and party. But when it comes to doing dance rehearsals, go with your dance friends.
This way, you will have friends boosting you to become better, and the bar will keep on rising continuously.
Often it is said that you are the sum of the five friends you keep. The key is to have five friends for various things. For example, one group for a party, one for deep thinking, one for accelerating career, and so on.
Remember that the illusion of something not possible, because your friends didn’t do is an illusion. Break that by making friends who have done that. Aim for more, choose for yourself.