When you think about all the frills that come along with a grand marriage, you might reconsider your initial idea.
Spending extravagantly on marriage seems fair. It is a one-time deal. We want to look great at the special moment of our life and it acts as a natural thing because everyone does it.
Can you afford it? Should you spend it?
If you can’t manage the finances and need to look for the loan to fulfill your spending then it is a bad idea. Making yourself under debt isn’t the nice feeling. It hurts in the long run.
In case you can afford it, have you considered other options rationally and with the open mind?
If in both the cases, you arrived at a fancy wedding then good for you. In any case, if you are confused and wondering what is right for you then let me help you.
I don’t want to demotivate you in any way. I want to help you make the informed decision. Or help someone make the best decision for them. Marriage is something which probably will happen in your family.
It is a big decision. Considering all the perspectives and ideas before arriving at decision seems a reasonable deal. Okay?
1. It’s about Long run
Marriage is a one day deal, sometimes 3 days. All the relatives, friends and colleagues won’t remember it. They won’t be the family picture for you after your marriage.
Your family and few close friends matter the most.
If you can afford to spend luxuriously on weddings and still be financially sound then go crazy. But if you are like 80 percent of people then you need to understand, your life will only get harder from here.
Marrying someone is a big decision. You need double the resources and compatibility which should be adjustable. Adding financial burden isn’t a novel idea then.
Spend within limits to give a party and a moment to remember. And put all the money left in a savings, investment or leisure money for you and your partner. Having a grand marriage and no vacation for 2 years is worse.
On the other hand, having a decent marriage and a mini vacation every 6 months sounds fun and awesome.
What would you want to do? Spend all your money for a short moment which is tiring, frustrating and long for you. Or you are going to spend the majority of your money on the betterment of your life and vacations which rejuvenate you.
2. No Pressure Marriage
Regardless of everything, are you happy about the whole fancy wedding deal then nothing matters? Go ahead and enjoy the lavish ceremony.
But like in many situations, people resort to pressure from family members, society, and our own alter ego. If you are acting upon the pressure then now is the time to rethink your idea.
When you act under the pressure you end up making the decision to please people who don’t matter. Society as a whole will judge you anyway whether you have a quiet or loud marriage. No matter what you do, people will criticize, be unhappy and put some nasty remarks.
You can’t control any of them. So why put your energy into any of this. Put your best judgment and make the decision which makes sense for you, your love and family. Everyone else matters a lot less and to the irony – they put the most pressure.
Relax and don’t let other people make decisions for you. Stand up and voice your concerns, ideas, and suggestions whether it is for or against any of the ceremony.
3. Open up
Be open to different ideas, viewpoints and perspectives. You don’t need to act upon them. Embracing that you understand them is the key to successful life.
Make your wedding a rocking one.