We all live in our world of ideas. Doesn’t matter whom you meet, you will try to form an idea of that person in your mind. And the sad part is when slowly you see that idea not in practice you will be shocked.
This happens in all the love relationships. We set our ideal expectations from our partner when we first meet them. This goes to an extent that we believe in our mind that they possess the qualities we wish to see in them. This persona is formed by our perspective.
When things go in the wrong direction, your eyes and mind gets open in the long run then no one is to blame but you. You were the one who made an image in your mind and it is hurting you when the reality is different.
You created the trap in which you have trapped yourself. The reason we do this is simple. We have some expectations from everyone we meet.
No one is obligated to your expectations. However we love to see our expectations getting fulfilled. To fill this void we tend ourselves into believing that our expectations are going to be fulfilled.
When you are thinking in this direction, you hurt yourself hard.
People Are Bound To Change
Times fly by. People get new experiences and learn new ideas. Their rationals might change, their taste of humor might change or they might change physically.
If you are stuck with the same idea of person which you have formed in your mind then you will be disappointed. People change quickly. You too change. If everyone you meet expect you to behave like you did 5 years back then they will hate you.
There are two parts to this process :
- You need to make sure that you accept that idea of change. As the famous quote goes, “The only thing constant in the Universe is change”.
- Don’t form an idea of the person. If you do then don’t have any expectations. Expect to get surprised every time you meet.
Look at yourself now in the mirror. Check your photo from a while back. You have changed so much. You have gained so much experiences. Your idea of love, investment and fun have changed drastically. Now see the world. Multiply the magnitude by 10 times. That much the Universe around you has changed.
Failures And Setbacks
Don’t think you are entitled to anything in life. If you work hard then don’t assume you will be rewarded. It is okay if you do, it should be okay if you don’t.
You should be open to keep working and keep trying doesn’t matter the number of failures or setbacks you get. The more you do, the more challenge is for you to grow.
Keep doing the work, don’t expect anything. Try your best and be open to any outcome. Try again and try again. Stay happy with no expectations. Try lessening your expectations from today.