Like totally in your face. It is sad. Imagine yourself going to talk to a person and giving your best shot and boom – they don’t care.
It is heartbreaking to say the least. When you sit down and think about all the things that go wrong, you will probably blame yourself. And you might think, it is okay to get rejected because you are not good.
It happens all the time – in job interviews, asking someone out or networking for closing a sale.
In most of the cases, we move on immediately because we respect others and think it was the best shot after all. There is no way you could have done something differently. And there is no chance left now.
What if I told you – you got an opportunity. Not the illogical, aggressive and rude approach. A systematic, logical and appreciated one.
You could not only succeed, you will increase your chances of further interactions. Your social skills will level up.
From the one who is shy and confused to confident and outgoing. From the one who doesn’t believe in second chance to taking multiple chances to grow oneself and be sure of the outcome.
1. Try again
This might seem as the disaster plan but it ain’t. If the person whom you have approached have been clear in saying – “NO” then don’t approach.
But you somehow approached uncomfortably and they were scared or not okay with your approach then you can try again. But this time – don’t go and demand what you want. Be polite and calm.
Your intention this time should be to have a connection. No matter if you were looking for a relationship, sale or something else, you better work on getting their attention and contact.
The idea is to become friends and hear their problems out. If you have solution then offer them or simply hear them out. Do this with as many interactions as possible. You need to come a person who doesn’t want anything.
Give, give and give.
Tell them about the new coffee shop which is awesome or the article which has data on the competitors revenue and so on. Something to help them.
When you do this enough times, then you may ask what you require and more often you will get a positive response.
Else you would have learnt a lot along the way which is valuable in itself for the amount of time invested.
2. Move on
Yes, like I said – you should move on when there is a firm negative response.
But if you tried your all might and after a reasonable time, you aren’t getting any benefit. Then it is time to move on. Only this time you will have the humbleness, gratitude and proud feeling.
You didn’t gave up in the initial try, you went on for the second and probably third time. Not being to trouble someone but help them and just give your best.
The outcome might not necessarily come in your favor but if you do this with everything then over all you will end up becoming more successful than otherwise.
When I say, move on – it isn’t some kind of pity which you are doing to yourself. You aren’t moving on from a failure. You are moving on from a lesson learnt to the next big thing. Next opportunity to rock the stage.
You are the hero you need. You need to see within yourself for the help and make yourself strong enough that you get the best from everything.
Try, give, give and give and move on to the next network. This is cycle of personal growth. Believe in self.